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Division of Student Life and Enrollment

Healthy Relationships

OASIS information is meant to be educational in nature and to help increase dialogue and discussion about this important topic. Refer to ETSU’s Student Sexual Misconduct Policy for specific ETSU policy information.

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships

People in healthy relationships respect each other. They can talk honestly and freely to each other and share power and control over decisions. They trust and support each other and respect each other's independence. In contrast, an unhealthy relationship is unbalanced. One partner (a person in the relationship) tries to control the other.

Healthy Vs. Unhealthy Relationships

The Red Flag Campaign


10 Guidelines for Communication
  1. Describe your feelings rather than using them to attack your partner
  2. Express what you want or need
  3. Keep your body language open and receptive
  4. Use whole messages
  5. Use clear messages
  6. Avoid global labels and “you” messages of blame
  7. Discuss one thing at a time
  8. Restrain yourself
  9. Really listen
  10. Be aware of your partner’s family patterns


Know Your Rights...Love is Respect


Dating Rights

          I have the right to date or not to date.
          I have the right to choose my dating partner.
          I have the right to set limits.
          I have the right to be assertive.
          I have the right to be treated with respect.
          I have the right to be safe on dates and in relationships.
          I have the right to say "No" and to have my "No" be believed and respected.    
          I have the right to insist on safer sex practices.
          I have the right to refuse to have sex with anyone, anytime, anywhere.
          I have the right to know where I'm going on a date.
          I have the right to use my own transportation on a date.
          I have the right not to use alcohol or other drugs.
          I have the right to leave any date that feels dangerous.

Relationship Rights

The right to be treated with respect
The right to live without verbal, psychological, physical,

     or sexual abuse
The right to constructively express your feelings and opinions
The right to pursue your own interests, education and goals
The right to participate in decision making
The right to privacy and time alone
The right to maintain old friendships and make new ones
The right to enjoy time with your family
The right to say no or disagree
The right to consensual & safer sex practices
The right to change your mind
The right to get help for yourself or a friend
The right to leave


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